Losing Track | 100 days until 2015

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When I say I’m losing track I’m not talking about trotting out the old Mum adage of “where has the year gone?”.  We all know that once you have kids time becomes a slippery slope of years passing as quickly as our many failed diet and exercise fads.

I’m really meaning, we are 9 months through 2014 and I’ve lost track of my life.  In SO many ways.

I’m pretty sure it’s a combination of massive cabin fever due to a miserable winter, Nixon’s surgery and recovery, getting used to SAHM life again and just complacency with the status quo that has left me feeling continually overwhelmed and overcommitted, but with a severe lack of motivation and focus to be able to mentally ‘clear the decks’.  That was a  l o n g  sentence but this is going to be a long post so get comfy.

I have never in my life had a veritable MOUNTAIN of things on my desk that remain there for days.  Behind one couch is my pile of shame;  another mountain, this time of outgrown baby clothes, toys etc that could probably fund Christmas – if I could get around to listing it all on TM.  I have started SO many projects this year and failed to complete them.  I have shopped up a storm and left things in their packages, unopened and unappreciated << how disgraceful/ungrateful is that?  I have indulged some horrendous eating habits, specifically, unbelievable levels of chocolate consumption.  I’m not even going to tell you how much and when I eat ALL the chocolate because you wouldn’t believe me anyway – it’s THAT bad.

Basically, I’ve just been sucking at my life.  I’m pretty sure my kids are ok though, they aren’t made of chocolate so I haven’t eaten them.

I’ve also been totally sucking at my blog and that makes me really sad.  I’m sorry about that.

But, it is spring and spring means change and promise and brighter {drier+warmer} days ahead and I’m going to rock summer this year so I need to get started NOW.

Here’s how I’m going to shake things up before the close of 2014;

  1. Finances: Dave begins a new contract October 1st which means he is going to be paid monthly instead of weekly.  Conveniently, I had forgotten about this until he reminded me last night.  As I mis manage our finances I now have two more pay checks to prepare for a month between $$.  It’s beyond time to vastly reduce the discretionary spending and put some goals in place.  I used to micro-manage our budget and I was really good at it.  In the past few years I have let this slip so I will be reinstating the budget and setting up a new savings account.  Call me frivolous, whatever, but I want to holiday next winter.  I want to have something to look forward to, to work towards and somewhere to escape the hideousness of winter in Auckland.  We don’t have credit card debt and won’t be getting into debt for a holiday so, it seems we will be saving.
  2. Health:  I’m going to shake my mega chocolate addiction.  I didn’t buy 4 king size blocks at the grocery store on Monday so that’s all that needs to be said about that.  We also need to reduce alcohol consumption.  Dave and I have slipped into the habit of “it’s been a rough day let’s have a wine” or “it’s been a wicked day, let’s have a wine” or “today is a day that ends with Y, let’s have a wine!”.  This will also go some way towards saving money and reducing the old discretionary spending.  I also realised that I went 3 days without drinking any water at the end of last week.  Hells bells I need help!
  3. House & Home: It’s time to stop procrastinating and get cracking, and by cracking I mean purging, selling and cleaning.  Around the house I have a to-do list as long as my arm that includes such good times as; water blasting the house before it stops raining for the season, planting my vege seedlings, weeding the rest of the gardens, getting our dining room table painted, spring clean Ethan’s room and the family room……..and more of course.  None of them especially onerous or particularly time-consuming, but the motivation to actually do them is what has been lacking.  I’m thinking, lists, lists and more lists.
  4. Blog:  Writing makes me happy, and sometimes, I think my writing makes you happy too.  So, I’m going to prioritise some time each day to spend right here, mummy-blogging it up.  This may eventuate in getting up earlier to fit things in, but this also has the added bonus of a guaranteed shower each day.  Yay for clean!

So.  That’s all of my dirty laundry aired.  I’m going to update you on my progress each week and please be a champ and let me know if you’ve been sucking at life too ok?  Maybe we can all reform together and start a commune or something?

If you have any amaze apps that you love for to-do list type stuff I would love to hear about them.  Anything I can do on my phone may help me keep on track.

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  1. Ange · September 23, 2014

    Yep….as I cast a sidelong glance at king size Ghana Peppermint on the couch beside me. I’m starting to feel like I’m emerging from this funk, too – tonight I tidied the cupboard in the spare room, and there is a biiiiiiig box of outgrown stuff I need to sort…..where will we start the commune?? As long as I don’t have to feed the chickens.

  2. Sarah · September 23, 2014

    Oh how I hear you especially on the wine and y front I’ve been just as bad! Loving your blog though very real 🙂 cheers to spring and crossing off your to do list

  3. Sunshine_Leonie · September 23, 2014

    Hahaha loved reading this! I suck at many things, but i will be cheering you on from the sidelines! We have cleared the choc stash and i will resort to baking… I am a chronic list maker but i love writing it on paper and triple ticking/crossing it off – immensely satisfying! So cant help you with apps :). As for budgets and savings – yes yes yes! We even have a graph tracking budget/expenses/savings and yes i am mental but to see those lines creeping in the right directions again helps soooo much! As for your blog…well you know I'm always lurking around 😉 go go go you and feel awesome!

  4. Stella · September 23, 2014

    Oh this has been the year of best intentions… and also failed ones. I set myself just a few, very specific, mostly meaningful goals this year along the lines of healthy finances, healthy eating + exercising, decluttered home and book reading + writing. I currently feel like we are moving backwards in almost all of those areas (but I HAVE been writing, and that is *fistpump* worthy). As for my poor, neglected blog…

    I'm with ya, and I say, let's go out on a high! That's three + months to achieve some goals (and I always work best under pressure). xx

  5. Gill @ mudbird ceramics · September 23, 2014

    With you on all of that… But make it over the last 4 years!!! My list never ends and it totally sucks. Right now I’d like to hop into a magic Narnia wardrobe & drink tea with Tumnus. But on a good note, I’ve totally changed my diet and I’m 2 weeks into good nutrition. That wasn’t on my list, so maybe I should add it so I can tick it off xxx

    • thebestnest · September 24, 2014

      At least you remembered old Tumnus, I had forgotten him – BECAUSE I HAVEN"T READ A BOOK IN SO LONG!
      >>>>adds to list<<<<<

  6. Sweet Mama M · September 24, 2014

    I hear you, especially on the health and finances front… Have definitely been trying to make changes here too!

  7. Lydia Ritchie · September 24, 2014

    I know how you feel Melissa.
    Love how spring is the time to dust off the cobwebs and give all areas of life a shake up. Bring on Summer!! x

  8. Nicky · September 24, 2014

    It's good to know I am not alone!
    My baby starts school in a month, I had always used that as a deadline to get my biz sorted and earning enough so I don't have to hide my shopping addiction from hubby… whoops, best get my A into G!
    The closer it gets the more it has had the opposite effect and I find myself savouring every Thursday morning cafe date with my little man… hell work can wait! For a little while at least.

  9. Tara · September 24, 2014

    Oh chick – I have a massive To Do list too and it feels like I just keep adding to it. I use Any.do as an app on my iPhone (but I'm not sure if its available on Android).
    You've given me the kick up the bum to try some new ways of setting myself up to be successful at powering through that list – but f'ed if I know just how right this minute.

    I started the House Refresh about a month ago and have got the planting underway. It makes such a huge difference and it only took me about 15 minutes a day for a few days. I'm gonna say I was spacing it out waiting for the earth to be ready but really I was procrastinating. The Spring Throw Out hasn't started yet … its on the list!
    I'll write my list on my blog too and I'll prod you along if you prod me.

  10. Alisa · September 25, 2014

    It's like i could have written this myself. WOW.
    I am so in the same place.
    You are inspiring me.
    I think I need to locate a IG/text/fb/blog buddy to push me in the right direction or check in on me once and a while. Someone to gloat to "I actually folded the mount foldmore" and they will 1/ get it 2/ give me a virtual high five.

    • thebestnest · September 25, 2014

      I\’m here sister! I\’m going with \’see it, do it\’ rather then \’see it and walk away\’.

  11. meghan @ MNMS · September 25, 2014

    Ah yes, so much on the to-do list – I hear ya. Spring is a good time for getting one's butt kickstarted and motivated to make a dent in it though – a spring clean of the soul too and all that. I have to keep telling myself day by day that I am managing to tick things off and I am making progress when it all seems so overwhelming and still so much to do!

    • thebestnest · September 25, 2014

      You\’ve been doing so much right throughout winter lady! Following some big dreams I\’m thinking xx

  12. Abby Soares · September 26, 2014

    Wowsers there’s nothing like putting it out there to make it happen. Live how honest you are and that you day what mist if us have been thinking or doing. Although I continue to be overcommitted and overwhelmed I can speak from experience if coming out the other side from alcohol and choc habit / addiction it’s way way better over here. Alcohol is lovely but it fucks everything up. You can ditch it.. It’s hard but your a seriously strong chick. Everything falls into place with that gone. Energy and motivation returns x do it babe x love you x

  13. Barb · September 28, 2014

    Sounds just rather too much like my life too – Here's to a way more productive last few months of the year 🙂

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  15. Elizabeth · September 29, 2014

    *Sigh* – this sounds like my entire life these days!

    Time to get off my butt and onto something new!