The #wantneed conundrum


#need shopping today

Selley’s Liquid Nails: to fix the stupid handle on Nixon’s Mocka Wooden Trolley that refuses to stay stuck

Cheap nappies: Nixon poos like a champ now approx 7 times per day at least, expensive Huggies are now reserved for nights only

New Nursing bras:  After wearing the same dingy nursing bras for 13 months I decided to splash out at the Farmers sale and get a couple of new ugly bras.  Nix is showing no signs of ditching the boob so we will soldier on with the shoulder snaps

New swim pants for E: He blew the ass out of his old ones, cheers Farmers!

New Flippers for E:  My swim fins from my surf lifesaving days approx 17 years ago finally bit the dust so popped in to Stirling Sports to pick up a new pair

Plastic farm animals: Nix likes to moooo, or maaaaa if I’m being honest.  It’s a fab cow/sheep combo sound that he invented himself!  Maaaaaaa. Found these gems at The Warehouse.

{Not pictured but equally exciting were baby wipes, Dettol spray cleaner and three dog beds for the assholes.}

So, lets preface this post by saying, this is something I’ve been thinking about for a wee while, no, I’m not preaching to the choir as I’m fully aware that I’m the biggest shop-a-holic there is pretty much. So hello Pot, I’m Kettle.

If you’re an avid Instagram user such as myself, you would have undoubtedly come across the #wantneed hashtag at some point.  Basically 95% of my feed is images that I could classify as #wantneed; beautiful linen, $50 baby leggings, $600 hand-woven rugs, models with legs for days shopping for Chanel purses, underground Etsy crafters creating handmade masterpieces that would look so fab on my wall {if I had any room left on my walls to hang shit}.  Even my fave second hand store has an IG account, tempting me with Scandi Bloomingville wares that aren’t even second hand wtf?!!!

Instagram is rad and I seriously love it, but holy hell if it doesn’t make my credit card burn a hole in my wallet every time I see a Needle & Nail chopping board – not that they are overpriced, they are just gorgeous and gorgeous = #wantneed!  I keep thinking of this one IG account, a very stylish mama in Australia with a gang of cute kids.  If I unfollowed her there is a chance I would not know where to buy the hottest espadrilles this summer, I may not know that Kip & Co have a new linen range out soon or I may never have heard of Mini Rodini {GASP}.  

And would any of this matter?  

Not in the fucking slightest.

None of this matters if you have infinite disposable income or at least enough to be able to live with yourself for spending $69 on a baby onesie.  I guess what prompted me to finally get this post out of my head was that viral Momastery post about the lady and her damn kitchen – didn’t we all look appreciatively at our kitchens for about 3 hours after reading that, regardless of whether our backsplash had subway tiles or not?.  Surely this wondrous social media comprised SOLEY of images is doing our heads in, and perhaps our bank balances?  It’s natural for us to gravitate towards the trend-setters, the beautiful people with the beautiful children and designer decor, but maybe this 24-7 access to how the other half lives runs the risk of normalising excess and amplifying the rampant consumerism that we are already mired in?

Nixon’s poor bott is requiring a LOT of attention post-op, lots of time and lots of money are being focused on his nether region and I’m just so thankful that a) I am fortunate enough to be able to give him my time all day every day and b) that we have the money to spend on his medicine, most of which is non-subsidised.  It’s really given me a bit of a wake up call about what I spend money on to be honest.  So that is where todays pic comes from; a flat-lay not of lust-worthy clothes, shoes or accessories, but an image of everyday, normal mummy shopping.  No #needwant items to be seen but plenty that I’m grateful for xx







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I live in rural Auckland, New Zealand. Two boys, one big, one not so big and 2 boy dogs belong to me and I them. I love Coca Cola in all of its sugar-less forms and I love you internet. I take way too many pictures of my kids and collect them all here. This is what I am doing when I should be cleaning or cooking or doing other 'useful' things.

8 thoughts on “The #wantneed conundrum”

  1. SUCH A GREAT POST. You’re right, constant images, it does my head in some days. I’ve been soooo WANTYNEEDY lately. I just wanna be cool and content. Because I’ve got it so good.

  2. MY COMMENT WORKED!!!!! Yours is the first blog I’ve been able to comment from on my phone!!!!!! No excuses now! Comment spam!

  3. I have a very ho-hum IG account, with a crappy phone that takes crappy photos of my crappy, messy house and life, but one thing I do have – and will ALWAYS lay claim to – is BEAUTIFUL children! So I claim that, and I own that, and I will continue to take crappy photos of them and be proud of their lovely faces (and hearts), share them with my lovely IG friends – and ignore the rest of the beautifully unattainable IG world. I think sometimes us Mamas get mired down in the bog of small children and that makes it incredibly hard to look up and see those things that we are actually always grateful for, we just took our eyes off them for a moment. I like that newly-coined 'perspectacles' term.
    PS: I found my boy reacted to a certain type of nappy and it made his bum worse – switching to a different brand made a huge difference. (Was with Budget, switched to Pams.) Hope you see some improvement soon!!

  4. Perspective and relativity… Great post 🙂 my ig account is lacking a lot of love and i despise shopping in general…but i have my weaknesses and if it weren't for a budget and goals there'd be a lot of #wantneed pretties around here too. Amazing how much we don't really Need when we stop and think about it isn't it. Go you x

  5. It does my head in a bit IG, so much prettiness, so much coveting. I don't understand how it is sustainable and sometimes wonder if people are spending beyond their means. I also think it often feels a bit empty as always having the next thing makes you less contented with what you have, plus the OCD in me wonders where do people keep all their stuff??? How do they have time to stay on top of clutter?? Sometimes I hate IG and it makes he feel so crappy other times I love it for its beauty and inspiration. Great post!

  6. on It is a little past 1:30AM where I live outsdie Chicago USA. I just woke up to get a small bite to eat. I saw some of the BEAUTIFUL pictures on Sophie’s facebook earlier but had skipped this trailer because I needed to sleep. I think I had a dream about her which is part of what prompted me to find the post again and watch this trailer at this hour. I know Sophie through our shared health struggles. As I am typing this from my phone in bed, tears are streaming down my face, as they did during the trailer. Though I have never met Sophie in person, I feel we are sisters. She is the first person I think of when it comes to others understanding how much my Oreo and Ginger mean to me. The captures of Michael and Jetty warm my heart as I know everyone special to Sophie was present, including Jetty. Misty looking down from Rainbow Bridge and so many friends like myself there in spirit who wish so strongly we could have been there physically too. But nonetheless, Sophie and Michael were still surrounded by Love, at the heart of it all, their shared Love as a couple. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for putting this together. I know the full version will have me bawling, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.

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