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Just. Be. Nice.

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This week I was privy (loathe to use that word as it sounds like a privilege which was definitely NOT the case in this instance!) to some communication that was just so nasty and unnecessary that had it been intended for me, I would have instantly burst into tears.

Perhaps I’m a bit precious at the moment, but I’m pretty sure my gut reaction on this one was right on the money.  

Adults bully too.  We may have to hide the effect this has on us sometimes in the interest of being professional, being a grown-up or keeping cool for the kids sake, but it does happen and it sucks.  Adults should know better and what is behind the bullying often runs way deeper than the standard playground insecurities of our kids.  Acting with the intention of demeaning someone and making them feel inferior in front of their peers is about as base as it gets and says more about the vitriolic person choosing to act in this manner then it does about the intended target.

I simply cannot understand nor tolerate people whose default setting is bitch (and I use this term in a non-gender specific context).  What is the point?  The lesson that you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar seems to have escaped so many.  I was given this pearl of wisdom from my husband very soon after we began dating and it changed my life as much as he did.  

Here’s some advice; slap the sucked-lemon look off your face, put a smile on your dial and have a nice fucking day ok?