Hello Nixon | Extended Breastfeeding a 15 month old

{look away Uncle Kenny, look away!}

Extended breastfeeding

My Little Hippo is still breastfeeding.  I remember saying to Dave and my mum about 3 months ago, “I just want him to keep going until we are done with his surgery and then he can quit whenever he likes”.  Well, Nixon’s surgery was just over 2 months ago and the wee babe is showing no signs of shaking his boob habit.

E self-weaned at 12 months so I had expectations that Nix would behave similarly.  Turns out I was strangely naive to think my kids might be similar in any way!  As a Mother of two breast-fed children, I have always been confident with nursing in public if I have needed to, but actually discussing breastfeeding feels like it has gotten a bit more awkward the older Nixon gets, and it feels like others may have gotten more uncomfortable with the idea as well.

Tough shit I say.

Nix had his 15 month immunisations on Monday  and after a jab in each leg and in one of his arms, he was in full rage mode and almost succeeded in body slamming the nurse {she was quite petite and Nix is not}.  When my babe winds up like that there is actually nothing that will calm him down except breastfeeding, it’s his own little Hulk Mode, and when you’re tipping the 95th percentile that rage can hurt!

We also had the pleasure {?} of our Plunket visit on Friday.  After being verbosely congratulated for my nipple skills, I was told that breastfeeding four times a day was quite a lot at this age.  You seriously can’t win with those chicks.  I honestly give zero fucks about the opinions of Plunket.  They failed Nixon as a baby when he had so many signs of a serious problem {hello Hirschprungs Disease, normally diagnosed as a newborn!} and when E was a toddler all they wanted was to see him drinking formula – wtf?

So anyway, today was a fantastic day of post-imms tenderness combined with teething preciousness, the only time he was at peace was when I nursed him at lunchtime.  He woke up soon after, failing to have a good nap all day, but at least he was able to catch some zzzz’s and forget his baby problems for a while.  

FYI, no judgements here, it makes no difference to me whether you bf or not, how long you did it for, or if your kid loves his bottle.  As long as you’re feeding your children something and loving your babies hard out you’re winning in my eyes xx

Realising you were doing it all wrong; the bedtime breastfeeding debacle.

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Today, on the eve of Nixon’s first birthday, I woke up without having left my bed at all {!!!!!!!!!} the night before.  My serial night-feeder only woke once and settled himself back to sleep after about 5 minutes of fussing.  This is a huge deal for us as Nix’s night time antics have been causing Dave and I much angst in the dark, cold, lonely hours of 2 and 4am.  Basically Nixon had forgotten how to settle himself back to sleep and I had been indulging it over the last couple of months of illness and hospital stays.  I had slipped into the backwards pattern of feeding him immediately before laying him down in his cot and so he had developed a very strong association between breastfeeding and sleep.  Rookie mistake you say!  Well even wizened old second-time-around-mamas make rookie mistakes, it just took me a while to identify where I was going wrong.

Nixon has been waking at least twice a night, sometimes more, for months now.  Waking in a rage.  Not crying, he was not upset, he was angry.  Angry that it was taking so long for me to get my ass out of bed and give him some milk so he could go back to sleep.  The problem with an angry baby is that crying-it-out {which I’m totally ok with in babies of Nixon’s age} doesn’t work because he isn’t crying.  He’s just yelling – very, very loudly FOR AS LONG AS IT TAKES UNTIL HE BREAKS YOUR WILL.  This is the truth.  I don’t know about you, but my will is very fragile in the middle of the night in the depths of winter, so if breastfeeding the baby on demand when he wasn’t even hungry would allow me to get back under my duvet quick smart then that’s what I would do.

So for the past 48 hours I have been feeding Nixon about half an hour before bed, then changing him and finishing off with some stories before I lay him down in his crib.  Doing this at naptimes and bedtimes seems to have helped establish the new routine which will hopefully mean more sleep for Dave and I!  No doubt this will all regress after our hospital stay next month for Nixon’s pull-through operation but at least I’ll have a trick up my sleeve for when we get home and comfort feeding is no longer required.

But hey, one year of breastfeeding!  Ethan was in general a much easier baby then Nixon, including being a dream to breastfeed.  Nix had a really hard time in his first month, he wouldn’t feed, had trouble latching, was hospitalised for failure to thrive, we topped up with formula for two weeks and I was prescribed domperidone to increase my milk supply – which was awesome, definitely ask you doctor about this if you are concerned bub is not getting enough milk.

Extended breastfeeding means for me;

  • Breastfeeding past 1 year old and not weaning by some pre-determined age
  • No bottles to wash!  Not by choice I might add, try as we did Nix refused milk, expressed or formula from a bottle just as his older brother did
  • It’s so easy, I don’t really worry too much about getting caught out with no snacks or food
  • Dresses are pretty much still off the fashion radar for me
  • Truthfully, it still hurts a little.  Nix has five teeth now and pulls hard out when feeding
  • You can still get mastitis at this late stage of nursing, I did two months ago and it was awful!
  • I need to buy new nursing bras, after a year they are looking a little worse for wear, but I can seriously recommend the cheap Farmers Lyric brand they have certainly gone the distance!
  • I get some close cuddles with my babe at least a couple of times a day still which I treasure

 

 

Wardrobe Wednesday | Breastmates Waterfall Drape Cardi

 

Cardigan : Breastmates

T-Shirt : My fave AS Colour Custom Mali Pocket Tee

Jeans : Levis Demi Curve

Watch : Marc by Marc Jacobs

Belt : Old Navy

Shoes : Sperry Bahama Sparkle Suede

Earrings & Necklace : Gifts from Dave’s India Trip

Next Thursday I will have been breastfeeding for a year!  So stoked about that, I’m totally crossing my fingers that Nixon will keep going at least until August when his pull-through operation will take place as it will help comfort him so much to be able to breastfeed when he is in pain and just wants to be held.  Ethan spontaneously quit around this time, but thankfully Nix shows no signs of dropping feeds, though he can easily go without if I’m not around.

Full term breastfeeding means I am still quite conscious of what I’m wearing and how easy it is to feed Nixon in a given outfit.  At this time of year layering is essential and a versatile cardi is a key piece that every Mama should have in her wardrobe arsenal.  The Breastmates Waterfall Drape Cardi ticks all the boxes and more for me.

The super soft Modal/Spandex blend was thicker and warmer than I had expected, with the added benefit of being the MOST comfy thing to wear ever!  The asymmetric hemline is so on trend, but unlike other cardigans I have seen in this cut, the back is the perfect butt-covering length.  The waterfall drape is a perfect, built-in nursing cover.  Nixon is too huge and too old to enjoy being covered up while feeding but this would be such a lovely addition to a new Mum’s wardrobe or any Mum with a younger baby who prefers a bit of privacy when nursing – without the added hassle of a separate wrap or cover.

This is a really, lovely, quality addition to my wardrobe and is something that I will continue to wear long after my breastfeeding days are done :::::sob:::::.

I saved the best for last.  The price.  $39.90. I would pay twice the price for this.  No joke.

Available online now from www.breastmates.co.nz

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The cardigan was provided free for editorial consideration, but the opinions expressed are my own.

 

Kiwi Mummy Blog Review – Breastmates Dress

I miss wearing dresses.  I really do.

I have quite easily slipped back into my old wardrobe and quickly figured out what translates into breastfeeding-friendly attire.  But, you can’t really hike up a dress and feed bubba whilst standing in line {for an hour!} for Santa at Smith & Caughey’s can you?  And yes, if you’re wondering, I did the stand-up breastfeeding manoeuvre IN THE LINE for Santa at S&C this week!  I’m a pro guys, I got the skills…..

Anyway, this little number from Breastmates solves all of my dress-angst and is easy-peasy to breast feed in.  For reals.  And doesn’t it look smashing?

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So I dressed it up a bit here with my Kathryn Wilson shoes and a statement necklace, but, I think this dress would look just as great with a bo-ho scarf and flats or jandals {which is probably how I would wear it most of the time}.  The cut of this dress is perfect for post-baby bodies, it’s flattering, non-clingy  – hell yes – and the fabric is so forgiving it would definitely see you through a range of sizes as you and your belly transition post-partum.  I haven’t even gotten to the best part yet, check this out;

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So easy and discreet!  I am truly feeding Nixon in this shot.  See, I don’t really care about discreet, I will feed anywhere and could give two hoots about it, but I know not all mummies feel this way and not all members of the public appreciate a kick-ass breastfeeding mama {wtf?}, so, this dress is pretty ah-maze-ing.  I’m thinking summer weddings, Christmas and New Years parties, sunday markets……..

I love it.  Available in two colour ways, RRP $99 available from Breastmates

The dress was provided for my consideration but the opinions expressed are my own.