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Weekly Wrap Up

Weekly Wrap Up

Sometimes being tucked up in your bed early on a Friday night is the best place to be, especially when it’s freezing cold and it has been a long, busy week. Things I am loving right now; That I finished and submitted my law assignment 

Things I like Thursday

Things I like Thursday

My Michael Jackson memories.  There are so many, I grew up in the eighties so pop music was like crack to me.  Madonna, MJ, Tiffany, NKOTB if you hate it, then I probably loved it.  Christmas 1987 rolled around and Santa delivered the gift of vinyl – 

Stuff White People Like #126 Vespa Scooters

Stuff White People Like #126 Vespa Scooters

I may not drive a Prius (though I would if Toyota needed me to test drive one for a year or so!) and my car does not run on recycled vegetable oil, but I can say that I have been the proud owner of a motor scooter.

As the astute observers at SWPL have noted, I am a stereotypical white person so it should come as no surprise that I have dreamed of owning a vespa at numerous points throughout my adult life.  A vespa for me is kinda like a Ford F350 truck, it would be cool but it’s not going to happen.  But something else happened and its name was Honda.  It’s colour was blue, it was mostly made of plastic, it was born in 1984 and cost $2.49 to fill up – there was nothing not to love.  But I’m getting ahead of myself.

Bush and I drove cross country from Jacksonville, FL to ‘California’.  I say it like that because we had no idea where we were going, we were just ‘moving to California’.  We arrived in Encinitas eventually found a place and got jobs etc.  I had no license as I forgot to renew my visa about 5.5 years before, so getting a vehicle was going to be tricky.  Luckily my friend Pat worked at the car lot I walked or cycled past every day on the way to and from the garden centre where I worked.  My new Mexican work mates assured me it was no big deal to get a car (or other vehicle) without a licence and they were right!  Pat hooked me up and I was soon the proud owner of a 1984 Honda Elite.  It was a little out of my price range, but Pat and his manager were able to finance me for the whopping price of $300.  I didn’t think life could get any better.  Dave didn’t have a car either at this point, so the scooter gave us so much freedom, but not from each other, we still did everything together.  Grocery shopping was fun, a little uncomfortable by the time we got home as I had to carry all of the groceries in  a backpack, skateboarding was more fun, the scooter had a little luggage rack at the back so we were able to strap the skateboards on, but surfing before work was the most fun of all.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 SCOOT by you.Bush would drive to the beach with our boards in her truck and I would cruise down in my wettie on the scoot-scoot.  Encinitas didn’t know what had hit it. 

I continued to ride the scooter well into my pregnancy with Ethan, until the bumps at the bottom of Moonlight Hill got WAY to much for a chick in her third trimester.

Everyone was down with the scooter, people were stoked when I would let them borrow it.  I mean, who was I to hold back if they were picking up more classy vodka such as Popov or Wolfschmidt for Bush and I? 

Even Dave’s friends who would visit from out of town loved the scooter,MP 001 by you. check out pro-skater Kyle getting amongst the scoot with Dave Jack, he won $10,000 the day before in a skate contest but all he wanted to do was ride the scooter of style. 

I had only one treacherous moment when driving the scooter.  We had cleaned out a shed at work and I found an awesome Jerry Garcia painting done in oils that we HAD to have for apartment in Tortilla Flats.  I was quite sure that if I rested one corner of the painting on the foot peg and tied the back end up with some garden string I could get Jerry home in one piece.  I was wrong – Moonlight Hill struck again and Jerry fell off and it was all quite traumatic but I eventually made my way back to the spanish ghetto where we lived and Bush loved him!

The scooter represents everything wonderful about out time in Encinitas, that easy, carefree time before we were parents, before we had bills, when all we had to worry about was whether we were having fish or chicken tacos for dinner.  The little blue beauty never broke down, never gave us a lick of trouble and I would buy another Honda Elite again in a heartbeat.

Weekly Wrap-up:  Friday 3rd July 2009

Weekly Wrap-up: Friday 3rd July 2009

Such a good week, and such a bad week.  Quite the juxtaposition I know, imagine how I feel!  On one hand I want to run around the neighbourhood (ok the farm) and scream my good news to the cows and Hermione the pig and the 

Project 365 * Day 2: Dave & Hadyn

Project 365 * Day 2: Dave & Hadyn

Dave & Hadyn, originally uploaded by The Best Nest. Though he looks like he just dropped his most precious Transformer down the drain, Dave assures me he was deliriously happy at this moment. He is actually more happy right now as I am playing The 

Dear Chicks with Perfect Lives as you portray them in Your Blogs,

Dear Chicks with Perfect Lives as you portray them in Your Blogs,

From Mama’s Losin’ It, Ok I did it, I skipped last weeks blog prompts because, well they were boring and didn’t make me want to write anything and so I haven’t really until now.  Inspired by Dave, I am Writing a Letter.  I was blog surfing and looking at a blog I had never visited before, a single mum raising her kids in this amazing house.  Dave noted that all of the blogs I seem to read are written by pretty wealthy chicks with pretty, large houses.  Those who know us know that we don’t live this kind of life.  Life is quite often very hard for us, money is tight, I am frequently overcome with anxiety, worry and stress to the point that my heart beats out of time and I feel like I am going to explode.

Dear Chicks with Perfect Lives as you portray them in Your Blogs,

It is so nice to look at your ‘messy house pictures’, your bad day pictures  – I think this is your attempt at letting people know that under the acrylic nails and the perfect hair your are still human, but you only open this tiny window into your life.  That’s cool, that’s what blogs are for, you can decide how much or how little to disclose.  But what is really going on with you?  There is a reason why this morning you just didn’t give a shit and decided that instead of cleaning your kitchen it would just feel better to take a picture of it and hopefully garner some sympathy from other procrastinating mama’s out there.  What happened?  Was it that huge bill that just arrived?  Are you going to have to rape your meager savings to pay your mortgage this month?  Are your kids growing so fast that you can’t afford any new clothes this winter because you’re constantly shopping for your babies.  There was a reason why you didn’t load your fancy dishwasher this morning.  Lets hear it!

Why does no-one ever write about what’s really going on?  Are your lives really this golden?  Are there really that many people blogging out there with no financial concerns, no homesick husbands who want to visit their family ‘but too bad we can’t afford it”, no-one with friends coming to stay for 27 days and you’re worrying about how you are going to be able to entertain them and show them around NZ on a shoestring budget that is apt to break with the slightest amount of pressure?

Hello, my name is Melissa and we live on a budget.  We buy store brand groceries;

 

We turn all of our appliances off at the wall after we are done using them, and still I am scared every time we get a power bill, we cook everything from scratch there is NEVER a pack off cookies in our house because it is cheaper to make them, we eat every scrap of left-overs we have and keep our grocery bills under $140NZD per week.  All of this and still gas keeps going up, the cost of power keeps going up, food prices rise and you know what?  I want to have another baby but I am too scared that we can’t afford it.  This is our real life.  We are living in a recession, are you?

We are also lucky, we have an amazing son, our marriage is fantastic and we make the most of every minute that we have together as a family.  These are precious these days as Dave is working two jobs, but really, what a blessing that he has two jobs as so many New Zealanders can’t get one job in this climate of redundancies and unemployment.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t envy your good fortune or your hard work that has paid for your beautiful houses, you deserve every blessing that you receive.  But what’s really going on?  That’s all I’m saying.  Why don’t you blog about the real hardships you face, the things that turn your stomach into knots?  Because we all know that the world ain’t just rainbows and unicorns that poop cinnamon buns.

I hope your manicure tomorrow is all that you hoped for,

Love Melissa

Project 365 * Day 1:  Stuck

Project 365 * Day 1: Stuck

Lou loves soccer, he is very good at dribbling but he can’t seem to get his head around how to score a goal.  He seems perplexed.  I hope this isn’t a symptom of more serious issues.  I thought since we moved to the farm that 

Writers Prompt

Writers Prompt

From Mama’s Losin’ It:  List ten things that make you HAPPY, I skipped last weeks prompt which was 10 things that you are sick of, too bad I’m sure I could have rattled that list off in about 12 seconds.  Doesn’t that suck?  I wonder 

Full List of Stuff White People Like « Stuff White People Like

Full List of Stuff White People Like « Stuff White People Like

Full List of Stuff White People Like

How classic is this!  The stereotype is so perfectly broken down by this list that it MUST have been written by a white person – though I doubt that they would be able to call themselves a redneck.

I love this so much I am going to comment on the Top 50, and add my own whitey / kiwi spin on it for ya; 

  • #50 Irony – yes, and?
  • #49 Vintage – yes.  I have a vintage set of dresser drawers in our bedroom, our TV sits on a vintage table, and I love retro styling.
  • #48 Whole Foods and Grocery Co-ops – Yes, don’t eat torture – pork!!!
  • #47 Arts Degrees – Snap.  Got one, major Sociology, minor Ancient History.  I know, WTF was I thinking?
  • #46 The Sunday New York Times – They don’t deliver to NZ and my interweb time is already busy enough as it is with, twitter, FB and blogging
  • #45 Asian Fusion Food – meh, ‘sokay
  • #44 Public Radio – LOVE IT.  Ethan and I were glued to the lappy on election day listening to Obama slay the republicans on NPR 
  • #43 Plays – ho hum, haven’t seen one in a while, but I was Frenchy in our High School production of Grease
  • #42 Sushi – oh yeah, watch me roll up
  • #41 Indie Music – pretty much all we listen to in this house, though I had a kick-ass dream last night that I saw a live acoustic set performed by Kurt Cobain and Courtney Love!!
  • #40 Apple Products – still pluckin on pc’s but we have a 4 ipods of varying descriptions
  • #39 Netflix – loved it whilst stateside
  • #38 Arrested Development – ROFLMAO
  • #37 Renovations – yes, minor because we rent but watch out future mortgaged house
  • #36 Breakfast Places – not so much now we are in NZ, but in SD and Jax used to eat out for brekkie all the time
  • #35 The Daily Show/Colbert Report – Still watch it here, love it
  • #34 Architecture – is cool
  • #33 Marijuana – never been a fan, smells soapy to me
  • #32 Vegan/Vegetarianism – been there, done that
  • #31 Snowboarding – hell yeah, this season is looking good
  • #30 Wrigley Field – hmmm, I’m guessing this is a baseball reference, so,  negatory
  • #29 80s Night – oh yeah, every night from 19-21 was 80’s night with the girls
  • #28 Not having a TV – sorry, no
  • #27 Marathons – I’m sure Dave will get around to this one of these days, I’ll be cheering him on eating ice cream and drinking bourbons
  • #26 Manhattan (now Brooklyn too!) – sadly never been
  • #25 David Sedaris – ?
  • #24 Wine – You got some?
  • #23 Microbreweries – Oh yeah, pretty much the only time I drink beer is when visiting a microbrewery
  • #22 Having Two Last Names – We were considering bestowing this upon our son, but I do like my short and snappy new name so figured he would too
  • #21 Writers Workshops – online ones
  • #20 Being an expert on YOUR culture – not so much
  • #19 Traveling – YES
  • #18 Awareness – like……how we all live in a global community?
  • #17 Hating their Parents – no way, my parents rule
  • #16 Gifted Children – yeah, I picked up one of those about 4.5 years ago
  • #15 Yoga – downward dog, my friends!
  • #14 Having Black Friends – can’t even articulate a response to this one sorry
  • #13 Tea – it’s growing on me, I like fruit tea
  • #12 Non-Profit Organizations – What?  They do good work!
  • #11 Asian Girls – Pretty much every boy in my form class in 3rd & 4th form married asian chicks
  • #10 Wes Anderson Movies – def
  • #9 Making you feel bad about not going outside – Get some vitamin D yall!
  • #8 Barack Obama – is my homeboy, Ethan wonders why he can’t live here and be the boss instead of John Key?  I also wonder this ‘CAUSE I DIDN’T VOTE FOR YOU JK!
  • #7 Diversity – is good
  • #6 Organic Food – is better
  • #5 Farmer’s Markets – are the bomb
  • #4 Assists – I don’t know what this is but I think a football reference maybe?  In that case, SO not interested
  • #3 Film Festivals – in my student days for sure, oh wait I’m still a student, in my YOUNG student days
  • #2 Religions their parents don’t belong to – well that pretty much opens it up to ANY RELIGION IN THE WORLD
  • #1 Coffee – No, don’t partake
  • So I guess I’m pretty white, though not as pale as some of you I bet!

    The Feminine Mystique: Chapter 1

    The Feminine Mystique: Chapter 1

    I have been meaning to read this book since my Uni days as a sociology major, in fact hindsight wonders how I managed to past my feminist papers without reading this?  Anyway, I googled ‘Housewife syndrome’ today just for kicks and lo and behold it